Me and my girl had sex but i never came
I got really honest about, 'Okay, I'm enjoying it, but I'm not going to fake I'm having an orgasm when I'm not.'" Anderson recently saw a patient in her 60s who confessed she had been faking orgasms with her husband for 44 years, beginning the night they lost their virginity together after they were married. Because he felt so sad for her and for himself and for all those wasted years.
“I said to her, ‘You have to tell him,’ and she said, ‘Why would I tell him now? If she had just been honest about it, where might they have gone together sexually? ” ometimes, however, women say that having an orgasm with their partner is not only not a priority; it’s not what they want from sex at all.
“His initial reaction was shock, then rage.” But then, she said, "He seems to have -- which is kind of upsetting to me -- just kind of let it go.
He just kind of went, 'Well, okay, you seem fine, so I'm not going to try any harder.' And I just don't fake it anymore. “What he did [when she told him] is he just sobbed.
“It’s not reliably easy to achieve orgasm from intercourse alone.
Up to 80 percent of women need some sort of alternative or supplemental stimulation to achieve orgasm, whether that be manual or oral or whatever,” Anderson said.
Women may find that their partners are simply unable to give them the extra stimulation they need, the way they need it in order to get off -- and some find it difficult to speak up and provide clear instructions.
Other research suggests that the most satisfying sexual encounters for many women may depend more on the emotional and physical closeness they feel with a partner than whether they climax.
But whether women in long-term, committed relationships who are physiologically capable of orgasming, but who rarely do so with their partners, are happy about their sex lives is another question altogether.